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The function of crying after loss

The function of crying after loss

Recently two women in my bereavement group shared; that since their husband died, there were many moments during the day where they felt a need to cry. This reminded me of my own tears during my grieving process. In this blog I'll take a look at the cultural aspects...

Being real, what does it mean?

Being real, what does it mean?

For me being real means, making authentic contact and being able to show your feelings. That means contact with yourself and with others, when it feels right being able to expose your vulnerabilities. I think this is essential for a good quality of life. Are you able...

The Anniversary

The Anniversary

Emotions around the anniversary of the death of my partnerEvery year as the anniversary of the death of my partner Paul approaches, my emotions are noticeably very present. In the weeks leading up to it I'm more sensitive and more emotional and tears flow easily. It...

Saying goodbye during a pandemic

Saying goodbye during a pandemic

Reflection This week it's 3 years since my mother died. I look back with gratitude at our goodbye with all 5 children at her bedside. We had taken turns to watch over her for 8 days. Everyone was at her funeral; including nieces and nephews, friends and acquaintances....

If you feel like talking

If you feel like talking

I’m offering 30 minute sessions in English or Dutch, in these extraordinary times   The Corona situation The world is in the grip of the Corona virus. The progression is fast and measures we need to implement change daily. Initially some people thought: “ This is...

Major decisions after loss

Major decisions after loss

Situation after loss After the death of my father and later my boyfriend, Paul, my head felt full and it seemed like nothing would go in anymore. Routines were okay and as soon as something new came my way, I got stressed, because there was no space in my head. I...

Special days

Special days

When you are born and grow up, most of us celebrate our birthday. I remember seeing on calendars, which mostly hang in the toilet in the Netherlands, the birthdays and also anniversary of death. As a child, I thought this was strange, why would you want to remember...