On Sunday evening I was dancing at home and Aquarius from the musical ‘Hair ‘was playing.
These lyrics really spoke to me:
Harmony and understanding
Sympathy and trust abounding
No more falsehoods or derisions
Golden living dreams of visions –
Mystic crystal revelation –
And the mind’s true liberation
The Age of Aquarius or ‘the Fish’ represents the transformation of the world towards more human values. The lyrics described this perfectly. This past year was clearly a year for me to come closer to myself and find meaning.
A year where we needed to listen to and respect each others’ opinion, and that can be difficult. A year where we had less air pollution and became more ‘one’ with nature.
Unfortunately a year where there was more isolation and loneliness and where sometimes people couldn’t say goodbye to loved ones in the way they would have liked to.
Christmas is a time to spend with family and now we must spend it without them. In this situation the loss feels so apparent, you really wanted them here. Christmas and New Year will be different for a lot of people this year. Will you be able to still make it something special?
Whatever situation you find yourself in, whatever your belief, I wish you days of light, self love and unity in the New Age of Aquarius
For me being real means, making authentic contact and being able to show your feelings. That means contact with yourself and with others, when it feels right being able to expose your vulnerabilities. I think this is essential for a good quality of life. Are you able to show your feelings when you have lost a loved one, that meant so much to you?
Sometimes you can’t help showing your emotions and this might be easier with family and friends. At other times we feel like we need to ‘be big’ about it. Do you find it’s really exhausting to keep pretending that everything is OK? Those times that you absolutely dread that someones might ask THAT question and you know you’re in danger of breaking down in tears and not wanting them to think you’re pathetic. This can leave us feeling alone with our grief if we’re not used to asking for help.
Emotions have an important function; fear protects us and keeps us alert to danger, rage is a defense and can be a source of strength, sadness allows a release, it purifies and creates space. An emotion is an inner experience or feeling, linked to a physical reaction, a facial expression and a behavior. If we can’t give ourself permission to express our emotions, it can impact our health and manifest in physical or mental symptoms.
Most people learned early on to suppress their emotions. This can make it more difficult when it comes to mourning.
Have you been able to express your grief in loss?
If you feel like you could use some support with this then please contact me for a short consultation or drop me a line to make an appointment on www.palmyrabakker.nl